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Hot&Air - Miss Cellania - Miss Cellania: Jul 22, 1:19pm 3 reviews humor, truth, codependency, blame
http://www.misscellania.com/miss-cellania/2008/7/22/hot-air.html; The Hot Air Balloon
"A man in a hot air balloon realized he was lost. He reduced altitude, spotted a woman below and shouted, "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend I would meet him an hour ago, but I don't know where I am." The woman below replied, "You're in a hot air balloon hovering approximately 30 feet above the ground. You're between 40 and 41 degrees north latitude and between 59 and 60 degrees west longitude." "You must be in Information Technology," said the balloonist. "I am, replied the woman, "How did you know?" "Well," answered the balloonist, "everything you told me is, technically correct, but I've no idea what to make of your information, and the fact is I'm still lost. Frankly, you've not been much help at all. If anything, you've delayed my trip." The woman below responded, "You must be in Management." "I am," replied The balloonist, "but how did you know?" "Well," said the woman, "you don't know where you are or where you're going. You have risen to where you are, due to a large quantity of hot air. You made a promise, which you've no idea how to keep, and you expect people beneath you to solve your problems. The fact is you are in exactly the same position you were in before we met, but now, somehow, it's my fault."

Thanks to Jen Jen, this is a goody!

What People Think of Me is None of my Business: Jul 9, 7:53pm 4 reviews self-improvement, spirituality, codependency, four-agreements
http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-people-think-of-me-is-none-of-my-business/

Taking Care of Ourselves - Physically, Emotionally, and Mentally: Apr 28, 10:48pm 5 reviews mental-health, self-improvement, emotional-health, hsp, codependency
http://samsara.ihostyou.com/taking-care-of-ourselves-physically-emotionally-m...; Taking Care of Ourselves
Physically, Emotionally, Spiritually
We take care of ourselves because no one is as invested in our own serenity, usefulness, and happiness as we are. We take care of ourselves because our path is individual and someone else on a different path may be stunted and we do not want to follow them, knowing that if we do, we will be stunted. We gain courage by recognizing that fear is normal when we're about to embark on change but that we can feel the fear and do it anyway! We will understand that sometimes we may feel alone and even often lonely but know that though we may walk our path sometimes alone, we are never truly alone; There are others walking this path too.

We understand that agreements in this life can change anytime we need to; Anytime we realize these agreements have quit working or never did. We acknowledge and get that there will be people in this life who disagree with our path and though it may be disappointing or even hurt, we rise anyway.

That was the conclusion.
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http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/friendship/articleoprah.aspx?cp-documenti…: Apr 22, 8:14am 4 reviews relationships, self-improvement, hsp, codependency, highly-sensitive-people
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/friendship/articleoprah.aspx?cp-docume...; "Joanna describes herself as sensitive, and she is. But her reaction to my comments wasn't sensitivity; it was defensiveness. The two may feel identical to the person experiencing them, but actually they're worlds apart."

That's right. Being an HSP has nothing to do with being defensive although the two can exist in the same person. [Like the article, "Sensitive like TNT" is the Highly Defensive Person, where classic HSP is "Sensitive like an overclocked computer."]

However, because a person uses the term "sensitive" in order to paint nicely their defensiveness, it gives genuine Sensitives - who are not defensive - a bad impression onto people who'd otherwise not know the difference.

I love HSP's. My closest friends are all HSP's which basically means we can go days without talking and come back together knowing precisely where each other *were.* If I had a relationship with an HDP [Highly Defensive Person], I'd have to end it before I got too enmeshed, as I quit walking on eggshells about 4 years ago.

Newsvine - A Relatives Alcoholic Drinking - A Memoir: Mar 19, 8:40pm 2 reviews substance-abuse, alcoholism, memoirs, codependency, digits-digitized-work
http://digits.newsvine.com/_news/2008/03/17/1372935-a-relatives-alcoholic-dri...; A Relative's Alcoholic Drinking
A Memoir

A personal accounting of a period on my life in which I lived with a relative who exhibited signs of problem drinking.

Since this is a personal memoir and personal to me, I still share it with the Stumble community and friends with hope that others who have gone through it or who are going through it, realize they are not alone.

From the memoir: I wore a wrinkled shirt to the hospital for a surgery I would have. I was scared but I said nothing. Because my oversized t-shirt that I would be taking off in less than the 5 minutes it would take us to get to the hospital, was wrinkled, I looked like a whore. She said so. I was self-centered. I was spoiled and selfish. Why would I choose, of all shirts, that one? Didn't I know that I looked like a whore? And what was wrong with my hair? Why didn't I curl it?

This was just one instance that remains in my memory. My female relative was an alcoholic and she loved me. She proved it often enough. I loved her too. But with the love I held for her, there was fear and misunderstanding. And with the love she had for me, there was the interference of alcoholism.

I thought if I could behave well, she would quit the drinking she often promised to quit.

[ A Relative's Alcoholic Drinking ]

How to Protect Your Health Against Toxic Behavior: Mar 16, 9:31am 3 reviews self-improvement, hsp, codependency, highly-sensitive-people
http://www.drbenkim.com/toxic-people-behavior.html; How to Protect Yourself against Toxic People

This is a good article on How to Protect Yourself against Toxic people. It was one of the biggest problems I used to have in my life and unknowing if it was because I was an HSP, or because I maybe was feeling a different energy from the person than what they were dissembling or prevaricating, it was a real challenge for me to quit thinking I must be crazy.

I learned that people can be can be 'toxic' without being overt about it. The lesson, for me, was to trust my 'self'. The best book that helped me in dealing with toxic people, before I got into codependent recovery, was When I say No, I feel Guilty.

My darling friend, PixieQuix is how I found this!

Help an Alcoholic to Stop Drinking: Feb 3, 8:02am 3 reviews substance-abuse, alcoholism, recovery, codependency
http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/

Let's say NO! (How to make better decisions Part III) : Reason-4-Smile We…: Jan 21, 3:17pm 2 reviews relationships, self-improvement, codependency
http://www.reason4smile.com/2008/01/14/lets-say-no; Article on how to make better decisions and particularly, how to say no. If you say yes when you don't want to you become embittered and angry. Saying yes only when you want to keeps you authentic and honoring yourself and boundaries. People also seem to respect you more because they sense your integrity and honesty. Here's my own "Sometimes the Kindest Word is No."

Just eat him: Dec 1, 2007 2:12pm 20 reviews comics, humor, psychology, personality, codependency
http://www.des.emory.edu/mfp/eathim.html; ...because, psychologically profiling anyone other than ourselves is sometimes quite useless... ;)

Found by way of the creative and endearing SU blog of nuckingfuts.

Newsvine - Sometimes the Kindest Word is No: Sep 5, 2007 3:31am 2 reviews mental-health, relationships, codependency, codependent
http://digits.newsvine.com/_news/2007/09/04/940127-sometimes-the-kindest-word...; "I think we associate 'No' with negative as in negative feelings and negative consequences. I know I used to. As a child, being told 'No" was usually accompanied by a look or a tone. As a result, I think I grew up thinking No was just 'bad.' As a further extension of this, I avoided saying it - ever. I would go so far as to end relationships in secrecy so I wouldn't have to say No. I don't know what I thought would happen - that the world would end?"