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It's not a flower
I'm trying to get some work done this morning, and as always I have Dr. Phil on. I'm NOT nearing tears unable to comprehend this show. I can't understand it. I can't bring my mind around it. Part of me just knows this is not real - that it can't be. However, I know the statistics.
My best friend had started being molested by her grandfather at a single digit age. She would later become repeatedly raped by him. This went on until well after she was married. Finally, with her newborn baby in her crib, crying...her grandfather was coming at her again. This time she felt a reason to stand up. She had not had a reason before, as she relays it to me. She said No. She screamed at him, she shoved him. She called the police. Her family disagreed with what she did to "grandpa." Needed to have kept it *in the family*...?
Molesters, rapists, and pedophiles COUNT on secrecy. They KNOW your shame will keep you quiet. They bet their freedom on it. I have talked to my non-step-daughter...not even three years old yet...about the sacredness of her body. We have discussed who can "change her bottom" and that no one has any business playing or putting anything into her "holes" [ mouth, nose, ears, bottom ]. She can tell. She can tell Mommy, Daddy [4th], Digits and she has a right to say No.
We have been through the "Little girl want some candy?" scenario. Every opportunity to play with her, spend time with her, is an opportunity to let her know she has final autonomy over her body. My hope is that as she grows she will understand and honor her body to the extent that she doesn't wince in confusion if a guy grabs her butt... like I did... that she'll turn around, confront him, and defend her right to exist in her body without violation.
She's not my kid. But it's my responsibility. Who says? My spirit. Because my parents didn't teach me, because my friend was repeatedly molested/raped by a member of her family, because sometimes even the parents are the offenders, and because I can.
Do you have a pedophile near you?
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